You’ve decided it’s time: You’re ready to start dating. It’s normal to feel hesitant if you’ve been out of the game for a while. But you haven’t let your age hold you back from anything before, so why start now? After all, retirement is a time to enjoy life to the fullest.
We’ve put together a list of five dating tips for seniors who are interested in looking for a companion. Read on to learn how to begin this new chapter of your life.
1. Talk to Friends and Family
Let them know you’re ready to date and why it’s important to you. Older children may react negatively because they feel as if one of their parents is being replaced. Or if you’re a widow, some friends might feel it is improper to look for a new partner. Ultimately, your happiness is what’s most important, and as long as you communicate your feelings, they should understand.
2. Be Confident
Set your own rules and only do what makes you feel comfortable. Don’t let anyone—be it family, friends or a potential date—put you in an upsetting situation. As an independent adult, your search for a partner is just that: yours.
- When you know the specific traits and character of your ideal partner, it’s easier to find someone with whom you’re compatible.
3. Put Yourself Out There
There are a lot of different ways to meet people; choose whichever works best for you. A few ideas include:
- Attend community events, sign up for a gym membership, register for a senior dating site or ask friends and family to play matchmaker (they know you best, after all).
- A quick note: If you choose to use an online dating site, be sure to exercise caution. The internet is a great place to make connections, but unfortunately, there are some dishonest people out there. Don’t be afraid to take chances, but always follow your gut instinct. When meeting someone for the first time, choose a public place.
- You can also shake up your daily routine to meet new people: Shop at a different grocery store or visit a new coffee shop.
4. Have Fun
When you’re on a date, the most important thing is to be present and enjoy yourself. Dating is certainly about getting to know someone, but you shouldn’t feel you need to share your life story right off the bat. Also, your long-term relationship might have ended in the recent past—either due to divorce or your partner passing away—but try not to bring them up frequently. It could appear that you’re not really ready to move on.
5. Don’t Set Too Many Expectations
Even if a date doesn’t lead to a romantic relationship, you’ve likely met someone with whom you share common interests. Just because you don’t have chemistry with someone doesn’t mean you can’t spend time with them as a friend. And growing your social circle can help you meet other people.
If you’re eager to get back in the dating scene, go for it. Don’t let uncertainty keep you from finding someone whose company you enjoy. Keep these five tips in mind as you begin dating and, most importantly, relax and have fun!
Aging in place allows you to stay in familiar surroundings and meet people in the community where you feel the most comfortable. Learn more about aging in place with our free guide, Aging in Place: A Popular Trend for a New Generation of Seniors.
